Am I in love?

“Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit.” 
“Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself. To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night. To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving.” ~ Kahlil Gibran on love

Usually if you ask yourself “Am I in love?’ it means you’re not, because when you’re fallen in love you already have no questions, this feeling is to obvious to leave any doubts. So it’s more reasonable to count the consequences of it than to look for the signs.

“My thoughts are free to go anywhere, but it’s surprising how often they head in your direction.” ~Unknown 

You can’t stop thinking of he/she on your mind when you’re working, spending time with friends, jogging in the morning or relaxing in evening. The vision of your object is haunting your mind like a ghost and it never works when you tell yourself not to think of him or her. You remember all the time spent together, every single word, gesture and look.

Love-sickness can be compared to a feather: you’re either flying high, all filled with enthusiasm and energy, that when people around start to wonder if you’re in love or you’re deeply depressed, indifferent, nervous, don’t see in life any bright sides. No third variant is possible. You sleep like a baby or suffer from insomnia. You shine and think you’re the best. You are afraid to leave phone for a moment because you sure that’ll be the moment he or she will be calling.

Nothing makes a person happier when he/she realises that the feeling is mutual. People in love look better, feel better and attract more attention from the people of the other sex than they are in their normal state. When you are in love single look of your object, anything that gives you the slightest hope and you’re already somewhere above sky. You’re ready to work on yourself because your object is worth only the best. You may start a diet or go to a fitness club. Women buy tonnes of cosmetics, fill the wardrobe with new clothes. But when you’re sure that your object won’t be there you may start being rather negligent to your appearance because you’re simply not interested in anyone’s else attention.

You may start to annoy your friends with endless talks about what he or she’s done or said. And you may notice that people around are looking at you with some mix of envy and compassion. A person in love always looks a little bit crazy and different to the others and we usually think that he/she’s totally mindless but “look at him/he” – he/she’s so very happy. When you’re in love your own problems don’t matter a thing, you don’t even notice them, but the one sad sigh of the object and the word starts ruining for you.

“The Chemistry of love”

Falling in love is based on some chemical processes (not only on them of course), but they are the reason for the euphoria, trembling knees, heart beating, temperature rises, loosing breath and mind at one time. These processes even change the smell of your body. In general they work like come psycho stimulators and you’re willing to see and to hear your object in search of a new portion of that sharp feeling. By the way each time we keep busy doing something we like (hobby or favorite occupation) the similar processes start in motion.

So if you find yourself in love enjoy that feeling because pleasure not only makes us happy but gives us that happy look that attracts people and luck.

Ingredients For A Happy Relationship

  • 5 tablespoons Adjustment
  • 5 tablespoons Understanding
  • 5 tablespoons Patience
  • 5 tablespoons Loyalty and Devotion
  • 5 tablespoons Empathy

Mix these ingredients together and apply it daily in your life. When both the partners do their bit of adding 5 tablespoons from their side, the relationship gets 10/10.

Everything has changed since the day we met and i miss you a lot my älskling. 


~ by Didi Ali on May 22, 2011.

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